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Sunday, April 09, 2006 balance. 11:00 AM this revelation is based on the assumption that people are naturally judgemental. i know this assumption is valid. so yes, as a minority, or more specifically, as an indian living in an environment where the ethnic majority is chinese requires some personal adjustment of thoughts, values, habits. there are already the existing labels: dark skinned, not very bright, fatter than the 'average' (average = skinny = chinese), boring, dances around coconut trees, bollywood whachamacallit, regressive... then there are the labels given by my community that may or may not matter (i have yet to decide, but chances are that thay DO matter): smart, responsible, intelligent, traditional or the complete opposite, depending on the individual. clement was saying that he admires those who can find this balance between tradition and modernity. and i asked, are you using me and sham as case studies? hahaaha. i realise that there is a need to modernize so as to relate to the majority. and to be given some credibility in the eyes of the majority. spurious you say? think about it. say for example i walked around in indian traditional garb like a punjabi suit i think many wouldn't even bother inititaing conversation or taking the friendship to a higher level. it's like just because i'm indian i'm inherently different from everyone else, just because. judgemental? it's true, really. (okay not that i am dying to wear a punjabi suit and that i wear the clothes i do just for this superficial reason. honestly, give me a bit more credibility) then there is the need to please my fussy little community. too modern an attitude and i'm looked down upon. staying in hall, how did her mother let her? a bit of cleavage, a bit of stomach exposed - there's disapproval. oh, she's indian, how can she do that? drinking and clubbing? unacceptable. yes, these are superficial examples but i haven't thought out my argument too well. my point is that as a minority, i need to find that delicate balance between tradition and modernity such that i'm not looked down upon by either community. yeayea i shouldn't bother about what others think and do what i want, but doesn't everyone want to be accepted? this balance is also a personal challenge. i don't want to be a stickler to tradition, and i do want to hold on to it to a certain extent but i do not want to be constrained by it. i want to break out of traditional stereotypes but at the same time retain some elements of tradition that i feel shape my character. i'm still trying to find this balance, and myself. (aaaah how cliche. i hate cliches) easy right? no sweat. hahaha. 0 comments |